"Signs of Codependency Characteristics of codependency may include: Consistently focusing on [list] [*] others needs even at your own expense. Being unable to receive help from others; feeling uneasy when others focus their attention on you. An sense of self based entirely on being a "helper.” Much of your time and energy spent taking care of someone who abuses drugs or alcohol. Unable to be alone or not in an intimate relationship. Feeling responsible anytime someone close to you suffers. Seeming very competent on the outside but actually feeling quite needy, helpless, or numb. Having experienced abuse or emotional neglect as a child, or having grown up with an addicted or alcoholic parent or parent. Rarely expressing your true thoughts, needs or feelings because you fear they would displease others, and perhaps taking pride in this fact."
