You did the best you could with the tools you have at the time. She is the one who walked away, not you. Actually HE left..he told her HE wanted a divorce. THEN he changed his mind but by then, so had she. I don't think I"m telling him to wear a hair shirt and wallow in self loathing.
I'm just saying so much of what he's written is as if he has consistently been an LBSer...not so.
It is too easy to blame the other person and stop doing OUR work, the work on OURSELVES
so I think that it is crucial for us to remind each other now & then, of how we got here.
She is the one who is not willing to work it out. not you. Stop beating yourself up and make the changes you want to see in yourself.
I feel as if that's what he is doing. He's Making changes in himself that HE says are good things to change. Things he wants to change...
If there was truth to his wife's claim that he had been rude & disrespectful, etc...
that means he owns his stuff...his work...and will work on it.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
