I am guilty of the same. However, in this situation friend did not discuss this with me. He saw what was happening, felt that she was taking advantage of a situation and let her know how HE felt. Regardless, it worked in the same manner. The implications fell right on me and I paid the price.
W has now set forth to tell everyone of our friends that her intentions are to file and that she was already making arrangements. She has been searching for houses, gathering her divorce paperwork and preparing for the inevitible. She expressed to the friend, the one that vented on her, that I (suckerpunch) either had to cough up the support or turn a blind eye and continue allowing her to live in our current situation. It is kind of what I was suspiscous of....gut feeling. I don't know if I could have turned this thing around if I had started DBing better int he beginning, or if i had not done so much damage myself. Unfortunately, this one appears unsaveable. I will continue to keep on keeping on. I am handling myself better than I would have in the past. I have not lashed out at her or made any demands or accusations....and I just got home from a nice motorcycle ride, GAL....I guess we will know how this will all play out soon enough.
