My H cleared out in a really sneaky manner & changed our bank accounts and put me on an allowance and closed some accounts & changed all the passwords - we've never talked about it, but I think he was getting some really bad advice and I don't think he'd do that again. But I felt/have felt really threatened since then and didn't want him coming back to clean me out! I can't say we've restored trust, but his previous actions were really out of character. SO I don't feel unjustified in my actions (regarding alarm/protection), but it feels anti-friendly. Is this something I need to use to prove trust & make gesture of allowing him entry? Or wait for him to ask for it?
That makes total sense. I would have done the same thing. H and I's separation was a joint decision. Very civil, so that's the difference.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
