It seems pretty common for LBSs to go through this in piecing. How does the LBS ever trust that the WAS isn't going to leave again, or have an affair again? All I can say is live for today because you have no idea what tomorrow may bring. You could die on the drive home this evening, or your spouse could. Anything can happen. We can spend all our time worrying about it or we can just enjoy each day as a gift and let tomorrow worry about itself. I'm not saying we should go on wild spending sprees and party like there is no tomorrow, I'm just saying we all spend too much time worrying about things that may never happen
Very well said and I agree with all this ^^^^. I do my best to live this way MOST of the time. I, much like many here, went most of my adult life "just knowing" W and I would be together forever. I miss that blissful ignorance sometimes, but I'm working on it.
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Why is that? In piecing you should have very open channels of communication. I recommended RetroV to you previously, did you ever check into it? It gives you some truly amazing communication techniques, and it takes the fear out of communication.
Good question. Everything has been going so well, I guess I'm afraid to hear any negatives. I did look into RetroV but it isn't in our area.
I definitely need to learn some tools for communication with W. I'd like to read the 5 Love Languages. The problem I have is I'd like to read R books privately and keep them to myself, but W and are together 99% of the time. Perhaps I'll look for a digital copy and read it on my work computer when I can, but even that sometimes is hard as W walks info my office numerous times throughout the day. I'm constantly clicking off this site when she walks in
M-38 W-32 D7, S4 M-10 BD-May '12 S for 1 month-June '12 Reconcile, Piecing
