A brief list- -Stopped asking her about her whereabouts constantly as this bothered her -stopped playing "20 questions" whenever she got home -stopped talking about R constantly -started dressing better -I spent more time with friends and family, rather than sitting around he house -validating nearly every conversation.. She even mentioned I was "Like yoda" -acted as if I was fine whenever I was around her. Acted like I would be fine no matter the outcome. -took a larger interest in politics and current events, something that interests her. _________________________
Okay, so had you been asking her a lot of questions before the bomb, or did it only start afterwards?
I can understand how why you would have a problem with assurances, but if you fell back into those old patterns, it could be very smothering to her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
