Even though the reasons or situations leading up to an A are different, the end result is the same.
"i knew, she was an evil witch for those six months to me."
Because of the A. It's her shame that causes them to do that.
"she still to this day doesn't want to talk about her choice and how it would affect others."
That is her choice because she feels uncomfortable about it.
"the biggest regret that cheaters have...being caught."
That is a simply wrong blanket statement.
"forgivness sometimes is not an option if the cheater doesn't even attempt to mend any of the damage they did,"
No. Forgiveness is ALWAYS an option. Forgiveness is in the control of the person who was cheated on. Even if she did apologize and did everything she could to make you happy, you may not "forgive" her.
"they only want to "forget about it"...sorry kind of hard to forget that your wife was screwing a guy for 6 months behind your back"
It only takes one person to change the dynamic. If you continue to act pissy and resentful towards her, she's not going to feel safe enough to open up to you again. That's probably why she doesn't want to apologize to you.
Have you gone to a C to talk about these things? Have you sat down and talked to your W about it? And I don't mean you confronting her and accusing her, etc. I mean, you actually having a heart to heart, telling her that you have been extremely hurt by her actions and want to heal and need her to help you to heal.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
