Hi Tallula, can I ask why ala-non? I am not fully aware of all of your story.

As for your h's involvement in the kids, I understand that one. Although my D is 22, h says he wants to be involved in her life, but yet doesn't make the effort to make plans to be with her. This upsets me HUGELY and I have made the comments here & there to let him know that it does. As he calls/texts me often, he asks about her. I say "ask her" "talk to her", etc. I know his rel'p with her is upsetting to h. He says he wants to go for breakfast with her and doesnt. Yet, he goes for dinners/breakfasts with his friends, but not D. She is kind of avoiding him ATM because she is "giving him space" and want him to make the effort to bridge that gap. Staying out of it is soooo hard.

((HUGS)) wfm

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)