subguy, so far I haven't heard from H. I've thought this over and considered the following responses:

To admission of OW:
"Are you happy? I just want what's best for you."

If D is brought up:
"I'm disappointed to hear but I do share partial responsibility for the failure of our marriage. I trust you will do what's right. Regardless, I'm here for you."

I need to listen to H, empathize and stick to script repeating it over and over.

Me 33 / H 30
T 10 / M 9
S 3 / D Infant
Bomb 11.22.12 / Moved 11.29.12