Once a muse...

[SugarBaby31]

AS, you're right. I did/do have a false perception of my H. My H's career was built on family and our faith, in fact he is well known in the Christian community for his "unique" talent. In hindsight, I see that I too believed he was perfect and became self-righteous when he fell short. I CAN love and remain married to someone that is flawed and that my expecting perfection is so false and also I can't behave as a junior Holy Spirt. I see now that I expected way too much from my H and grew bitter and unforgiving anytime he fell short of what I believed a good Christian H should look and behave like, ie "a good H would come home from work at a decent hour not 10pm, a good H would call his W to let her know he is running late, a good H would not need to be partying at bars until 2 or 4am." You get the picture. I'm not suggesting that I should tolerate all of my H's behavior, however the way I responded to it was not appropriate. I fought, argued, nagged and wore him down with guilt--I can see why he was looking for an escape from that contentiousness.