She knows she can't stop anything. That's why she been working on the kids to get them to say they don't want to live with X or her kids. She seems to have turned DD who shows me new things X bought for her in shopping trips constantly. DD is conflicted and he's the one I worry about. He young enough that he doesn't want to hurt either parent and I think he says what he thinks individual parents want him to say. Not healthy. For instance on phone (with X listening?) he says he doesn't want to be around fiance's kids anymore but the first thing he asks when I get him is, "when are we going to fiance's? You promised we would." DD immediately says she doesn't want to go so she is more genuine.

I have to balance doing what is legal, doing what is right and doing what is fair without falling into the unhealthy manipulation and game playing X has resorted to.


"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib
Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
Bomb and OM 12/15/06
Separated 01/02/07
Divorced 05/13/08
X married OM(OMH) 08/2009
Married 06/09/13