Less lonely, not scared..low on patience

[JBolt]

BTW rH, I think it's really great the way your H finally seems to be 'waking up'. Success stories were a big draw for me initially to this site and I love to read about them. I'm starting to see however that the real measure of success for us LBS's is how we recover our lives after our spouses pull the pin on us. I never thought I would be feeling like I would be okay if W and I couldn't reconnect. I mean really okay. If it wasn't for the effect all of this crazy is having on the kids, I think I would be mostly okay with her feeling like she needed to grow up and out of our R. At least now, I'm not feeling like I'm being crushed by the enormity of it all. I suppose 3 months of essentially NC will do that to a guy. I don't mean to brag and it could be the beer(s) talking, but I'm the best man she has ever met bar none, let alone had a relationship with. Hopefully she will realize that as well before it's too late. Definitely her loss if she doesn't.
J.