Had IC appointment today. I've been reading the Hold Me Tight book and really had a lot to talk about with that. There is a deep level of emotional investment described in that book that is intimidating. I want to be up to the challenge but still have a lot to learn. And need a willing dance partner.
But we talked about expectations too. It's a big issue with me because of abandonment issues and the way H left really hits me hard. I'm meeting H at new counselor in 3 weeks and my IC had a good point maybe others with the angry streak could use -
- Lead with hurt. Hurt is a true emotion and it draws others in. Do not lead with anger, which masks hurt. Anger pushes people away.
As far as expectations go, I know we're supposed to have none but the million dollar question is HOW to let go of expectations? Is there a mantra to recite or something?
