My WAW - coming to terms with it all!

[25yearsmlc]

Ah yes...forgot to mention its our 6th wedding anniversary in 2 weeks time.

Any strategies for that? Its so hard to know what to do...i think she is sensitive enough to be a little hurt if i didn't acknowledge at all.

I guess it has to show that you care....but not too much. More of a "paying respect" to the good stuff (which she has completely forgotten)

Any advice would be appreciated!!

for the anniversary I'd send something - BUT with a message that focuses on the kids and that they are your achievement together...

And maybe a photo of a good memory or trip all together and say something NOT pushy and NOT mushy

but like "whatever path we take, I'll never regret these steps" and have a picture of the kids'-

or "Happy Anniversary...It's still worth remembering" and again, put a fun photo of the kids.

Also, in long term marriages, nearly all couples report that their lowest satisfaction "scores" were the first 3 years after the birth of a 2nd child. Drops in sex and drops in "couple time", also tends to be peak working hours for the primary bread winner, so a lot of factors add up.
AND
to move 3 times (??) in a short time is an under rated stressor.

We were a military family and the chaos of the frequent moves seemed exciting but was also a chronic drag at times... and it turns out that my oldest felt sad a lot as a child and I wasn't completely aware of it.

I wish we'd not moved so much...

She will return to the marriage IF & WHEN

she believes it can be better/different than before.

So, what are YOU DOING to show that it can be? B/c that is your task.

she's not here working on the m, you are...