Sounds like you handled that exchange with your W very well. As far as a D being devasting financially for you don't let that be the reason you dont move on. You can recover financially. I know that it won't be easy for me financially but I can't live the way my W wants to anymore.
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out