It's a tricky spot to move on with life, yet still wait for your spouse. I need help with that. Am I waiting on her?
This is - to me - the unsolvable puzzle: how to move on, but be ready to work on R if the opportunity presents itself. From what I gather, there aren't any magic words or shortcuts, you just have to get there. And when you're there, you'll know it. GAL'ing helps you get there, but it seems you already know that.
Me? I don't want to go to that place if it means I'm not in love with W, so that's holding me back. I'm still trying to get there on my own terms and that just doesn't seem to work. I hear you have to figure out how to let go, but I can't help you in that department.
Best wishes.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
