Most of the time all I can envision for the future is me sleeping in a basement next to the boiler for the rest of my life, or at least until the baby is grown up and no longer needs Dad to be there.
There's only just that faint glimmer of hope, that tells me that maybe, someday, I will be in love again.
Well forever is a long time. And as far as hope, that is something that is contained within YOU. There can always be hope as long as it is inside of us. As long as you have NO EXPECTATIONS, there can be HOPE.
I have been studying this stuff for going on 4 years now. Things can and do change but sometimes it occurs at less than a snails pace.
The best advice I have read and give is to have Patience, lots and lots of it.
Those people that just get on living their lives can survive this.
Once you know that you are going to be OK one way or the other, then thats when change can be born.
Have you read Admiral Stockdale's quote when he was a POW in Vietnam? Try googling it.
