I ordered a new book, "The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation" by Melody Beattie, since I won't be able to make a meeting for probably 2 weeks now (Easter). It sounds like an updated version of her first book. With her first book, the whole concept was new and she's refined it since. I figure it can't hurt.
On a different note (or maybe not,) one thing I'm realizing that I really struggle with is regret. It's not guilt, because it's not things that I did that hurt someone else. Just poor decisions that I regret, that I feel like I should have known better and been smarter. Or situations that I got myself into because I was trusting or faithful or naive. I don't think it's a problem with forgiveness, because I've made a ton of mistakes that I've forgiven/forgotten. These are ones that don't go away, like not going to school 30 years ago and having to do it now. Or worse, regretting M'ing my H in the first place. Even if I D'd him now, it wouldn't turn back the clock or erase my memories or give me a do-over. But I can see the appeal for the WAS -- leaving is the closest thing I can imagine to a "fresh start."
So can anyone suggest a book on resolving regret? I think about people (Leonard Little comes to mind) that drink and drive and kill someone, then go and drink and drive again. How are they not buried in regret? AND guilt! I don't want to kill my conscience, I just want to be able to live my life and make decisions without living in fear of what I might do that I'll regret for the rest of my life.
