wfm - it sounds like your boundaries and self were overrun - but isn't there still a core - a real, inviolable, you, left, somewhere? I think that boundary setting with another person, which doesn't mean that you don't really communicate with them (sorry for the negative logic), can be gained in EE - constructive criticism, mutual help - revealing oneself, sharing, can happen. Perhaps not being in a marital R with the EE folks helps?
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
