He's still face down on the couch...returning home from work uttering, "get back into your hole" as he went back to the couch! I didn't ask him to be home, he said let him go so I did, he remained and now he's going to justify his ideas that home [censored]!

So now what, force him out, let him ride in his hole ( my couch), this is him being very rebellious, I guess torn, and I would say in control. He obviously wants to be a cake eater!

Any suggestions? What do I do? What do I say? Do I leave it alone, do I take control of my home?

The past can't be ahead of you in the future.
You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction.
What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!