Honestly, I have to say I may be harboring a bit of resentment and an underlying feeling that she never was sincere about reconciling late last year.
Her tone on R changed in September when I got the settlement payment from my car accident - she was all for R. I used most of that to pay off bills we had accumulated. W spent close to $5k on grand-daughter and a boat load on iTunes purchases and different stuff around the house we didn't really need. We should've had close to $8k to put in savings - it's gone.
The same week I noticed the money issue is the same week W began to change her tune on R - not wanting to anymore. I said nothing to her about the money! She was not working during this time, and if she had been there would've been no need to spend the settlement money. So at one level I've been asking myself was she ever wanting to R at all? Was she just enjoying having some money and all of the problems came back after it was gone?
So, in the mind reading and score keeping above (which I have tried time ans again to NOT do), I'm sure there was some buried resentment that helped lead me to the conclusion that things could not, or maybe even should not be salvaged...
