I plan on building a house. Building my company. Living life. Loving my son. Whatever sounds like fun.
It's a tricky spot to move on with life, yet still wait for your spouse. I need help with that. Am I waiting on her?
Can someone help me find a different mindset for that.
From this, it sounds like you ARE moving forward, as much as possible, given you have a child together and all. You aren't waiting, you are building, living, etc. You are NOT stuck, maybe just slowly moving FORWARD, leaving the door open for right now...this is good, and even if you all had divorced, it is usually good to take some time without a new partner, know what I mean?
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She told me but I just wouldn't listen. What has changed? Why do I want to try now?
She said she couldn't say that we won't get back together...but she is happy with the peace she has found.
I agree with AS, and I also want to ask, how did you respond to the bold questions above?
25yrsmlc drives home the core question in many posts: "What will be DIFFERENT now, versus then?" That is what your W sounds like she wants to know...
She sounds like she is coming to terms with things, gaining self-knowledge, etc...this is good, you don't want it when she is 40 something
You haven't shut the door, neither has she...Now, how can you show her that her concerns are/were heard AND acted upon? What will be different married to PW now?
Hang in there and I am so happy you are doing things, building things, etc! T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
