Running out of steam

[mrtwopointfour]

Thanks Maritimer, I'll take a look at your posts to see where you have been and got to etc. Good to meet you and thanks for your encouraging words.

We too are going 50/50 - which is great, I am all for it. But how does that help W be her own person and independent? In my mind it locks us together and makes us more tied down as we can only ever live near each other, work in the same city as we do, and half the week you need to be there for the kids. Again, don't get me wrong, I don't care - i am not pushing for life apart, and the kids are what count here. But for W - I can't help but feel its going from a R with the opportunity for much more freedom (i.e. me there to look after kids and vice versa), to creating a life that is locked to somebody you are not married to anymore and sticking to set days with kids. Its almost like being on probation. So instead of W throwing in the towel and giving up to move into this new 'perfect life'. Why not roll up her sleeves and try and resolve whats gone wrong and make the current situation work. So frustrating.