I've heard horror stories of couples going to MC before one of them was ready so I wouldn't push for her to go at all (not that you are, just saying...)
Luckily I had some strange feeling when this first started that I needed to see MC on my own, mainly as W said she had no interest, and also that i wanted to vent. I am so glad I did this now, so in fact by pure luck I told my W not to come and it is indeed IC.
Yes, I know you are all correct. It does not matter which it is - its looking after ME that counts. I am trying very hard to look after me, but the more I try, it seems the better myself and W get on, and then I fall into the trap of thinking things are getting better - perhaps relax a little, forget my goals and 180's and then have to wake myself up again. I know its a false sense of security as if W was asked right now what her intentions were it know that it would 100% be that she wants D and her own life. (don't worry I have no intention of asking!).
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
