I've heard horror stories of couples going to MC before one of them was ready so I wouldn't push for her to go at all (not that you are, just saying...)
Originally Posted By: mrtwopointfour
it would be good to talk to somebody. However, if W thinks I am going to MC, does it look like I am not coping as well as my PMA is showing?
Seems like you answered your own question. What difference does it make what your W thinks? If you need it to help you on your journey then do it. People with PMA's go to counseling all the time, in fact I think the C helps them to get things off their chest to maintain the PMA. I would think of it more as IC and not MC.
As Cadet said it doesn't make any difference if she's MLC or WAS, you need to concentrate on you. Many people on these boards have spent countless hours trying to figure out which their S was and I think every one looks back and wishes they would have spent that time on themselves.
My take, once you have general idea of what you're dealing with (i.e. that there may be a bat$hit crazy alien in your S's body and it's going to take a LONG time for them to return your S) that's probably enough time spent on the topic.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
