I appreciate you spending time on my sitch! Got some advice to think about.

As for whats going on right now...

Had stepson and D over the weekend. Because stepson is starting to open up I get alot of information thats not so good to know for my well being but good for him in reguards to him letting of steam. I also had a conversation with sil this weekend.

Sil has been cut of from ex completely. She met her at a birthday party and they didnt speak at all. She said that ex was kind of quiet the entire party but when she spoke her language was so different to how it used to be. Alot of cursing and energy in her attitude. Remember ex was in a physical fight bc I had met sils family a couple of months ago. That was a big deal for ex. In her twisted mind we have become her enemy.

Stepson loves it here. He says his mom is so angry and frustrated at everythin and everyone all the time. Him as well. He also said that his mom has trouble remembering stuff. Her memory doesnt work like it should and I had to agree with him that I have also noticed it.

She has started to lie to her own mother so that she can take the kids so that she and her younger sister can party. She leaves stepson alone at night so she can meet her new love. When I talked to her this weekend she started crying bc D had a temperature. She is very unstabel. She hasnt told her family about her new bf. I found out when she sent a cute text by mistake to me instead of him. Six weeks ago she ended her relationship with om1 and om2 entered two weeks later. The children are thrown from one potential stepdad to another.

When D spent the first weekend with her mom, brother, om2 and his children she was a mess for three days when I got her. Babytalk, wetting her bed and crying uncontrolably for no apparent reason. Needless to say it was very frustrating. Everything ex does have to happen right now. Theres no taking it slow.

None of this has anything to do with me and I try to focus on the kids as much as I can. Reading your advice on accepting and letting go I can only agree with you. But no matter how much you let go and accept these things still happen and you wouldnt be human if it wouldnt concern you. Just have to turn down how much.

Thanks!