Yes I did ask him why, he gave me a long list of things but then a few days latter changed his reasons. I dont feel like I can tell him all that is on my mind because I dont think his self esteem can take it. He said my being critical was what drove him away to begin with, though that may not be true because he changed his story. I dont want to bring him down any further is thats true.
As for Resentment, yes I am very angry and hurt, all day long I think about what he said and I wonder, how can anyone in their right mind say that to their spouse? Even with depression, C says its an illness and not an excuse. (H has used it as an excuse at times)
I have told him that I am hurt by what he said but his reply "well thats how i feel, im being honest with my feelings"
Before I left for my trip to the Philippines for a two week sabbatical i asked H how he was feeling in general. He said he doesnt know. I guess thats a step up, its better than being personally attacked all the time.
He is more cheerful, has been out to see friends, talks to his family on the phone (not about us) and I am doing the same. One thing though is he overly critiques everything I do to an obsessive level. This is recent, he never did it before. Like if I fold laundry the wrong way (even though he never washes clothes) or if I dont do the dishes right, if i leave a drawer open on accident, is he just trying to yank my chain?
