Hey RS. I'm sorry you find yourself here. Apart 6 of 9 years? Whoa..that would be tough on anyone. I give both of you credit for getting this far.
In my own sitch, I went thru a period where I really looked at the past, what choices I'd made, how they impacted me and my W, my kids. I think a lot of this is the "shoulda, coulda, woulda" Mach1 is referring to.
It's important work because it will help you figure out what's truly important to you, help you forgive yourself for your mistakes, and likely, help you ask for forgiveness.
I'm interested in what you thought the "prize" was?
What do you think your W thought the "prize" was?
Originally Posted By: RetiringSingle
I've been sacrificing for so long and I feel so betrayed.
What about your W and kids? Aren't they sacrificing too?
Originally Posted By: RetiringSingle
Yet she says I've betrayed her since I've made some bad decisions. Who doesn't?
The thing that bothers me about both these last two quotes is that it sounds like you are making decisions without your W's buy in. You are taking assignments without her agreement? You are buying houses without her agreement? Is she really your partner?? Do you think she feels like she is??
I'm not trying to beat you up here as I know very little of your story....just trying to get underneath some of the things you are saying.
