The reason I think its a MLC is mainly due to how quickly this came on. It was literally a w/e away with her friend and W came back a different person. From that point on she was cold and never came near me, almost as if she had found out about me having an affair or something (which certainly is not the case!). This lasted for a good few months before I found anything out about W talking to OM, and her confession.
If I read about MLC I can put a tick next to every point on the list of 'symptoms' to want of a better word. Death of parent, history of depression, weight loss, taking more care in appearance, wanting to be independent & not caring about how she gets there, EA with OM (possibly PA), but most of all its like aliens came down and swapped my W for somebody I don't know. W claims to have had a breakdown that w/e when she discovered she should never have M me, was not in love with me, and never was. Other than the breakdown part I of course do not believe any of that, nobody can fake 15 years of not loving somebody, or 9 years of M. Before all this happened, I always doubted whether I was in love with her enough, because she seemed to always be telling me how much she loved me, how she hoped i would never leave her, how I was getting more attractive with age!
I am not sure of the difference yet between MLC and WAS, sure they are all based on a crisis of some type, and i don't even know if it matters - its not going to change where I am.
The fact is however, that no matter what is going on with my W, something has triggered it, and I take 50% responsibility for that. So I guess we are both going through a crisis of our own is some respects, its just I am aware of mine.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
