Thanks all. I am feeling better. Having this board is a godsend in so many ways, but it does feed the impulses of those of us who like to run all the scenarios and figure out the one best answer ahead of time so as to not make any mistakes. It encourages overthinking and obsessing by its very presence, and by the availability of people across the globe on at almost any hour of the night or day to chime in and keep it going. I love it and I get sucked in and let it overwhelm me both.
I discussed the trip with my other sister too, and she immediately jumped to the conclusion that it was a step toward reconciling, trying to stay together in one room.
He put me down so thoroughly and unambiguously, and still I get confused by something that could so easily be explained as nothing at all in the realm of reconciling, and not just me but others.
I'm going to be as civil and respectful and nice as I've been to him and we'll have lots of fun on our family trip, but we're separated and we're going to be unambiguous about it. For my own sanity and peace of mind. I'm driving separately and staying with friends and let the chips fall. I will have a good time and get my FIRST much-needed nights off from being the parent on duty (other than my work trip) in a very very long time.
I might even sightsee on the way down. I loooooooove road trips.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
