i am able to see more clearly how our faults rubbed up against each other and slowly aggravated and harmed our intimacy.

NG, I feel what you are saying here. When I am able to distance myself, and think about things less emotionally I can see how both us, not just me, aggravated our relationship.

As of late, I have really started to feel and see the benefits of everything we talk about here...detaching, GALing and acting as if. Its starting to feel less as if and more, the new me. I cant imagine going back to being the person I used to be. And I appreciate so much more the value of friendship and love that I have in my life. You certainly seem to be embracing the love and blessings in your life and I think that is the way to go.

Keep on keeping on NG (((( ))))

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home