Hi, we only had two court hearings - the first in which my xh asked for a postponement as he hadn't made up his mind (!) We had then been apart for 5 years and had been going through divorce proceedings for a full year. And then a year later we were able to finalise everything. I refused to agree to the final decree until we had the financial agreement settled (where I live you can do that) So there is nothing legally that can be revisited. The judge made that very clear.
I think my xh was very mean and resentful for a good six and a half years. It is only in the past year that he has started to be more reasonable with all of his children and only very recently with me.
