I am glad you are doing okay J, the anger is natural, feel it, feel through it...then let it go...it'll take a while, and resurface from time to time, just acknowledge it and feel it.

No, you're not near that...please post what you find about "working on the marriage", I could use the review as well... smile But I understand that when they are serious, and somewhat out of the fog, that you will know it. Looking back at my sitch timeline, we both were bombed in Sept, and in my sitch, April/May is about when I lost my "horns and tail" in W's mind...she still didn't know what she wanted and still had more stuff to process and integrate, so...keep your expectations <=0...but you know this.

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Her having colleagues that I didn't know never bothered me in the slightest before, I suppose its because I don't trust her anymore. AND, I guess that's what's really bothering me now. Trust is broken.


I get this...and she will have to re-earn and re-build that trust. Please be sure that YOU are open to her trying, and earning it, and you giving it if earned.... I know a few guys who have been burned this way and they have not opened themselves up again, and their lives just seem sorta sad...Risk is inherent in love.

It still sVcks losing that "security" of complete trust in someone though...

"I don't know" oh man, I know I wish I never had to hear that phrase again..! But they are running off pure emotion a lot of times, and therefore really don't "know" know, if that makes sense. I think once they really "get" that love is a choice, and maybe more than just a feeling, then they can start to "know"...Ok, starting to get philosophic here...so enjoy your bowling, and Easter, sounds fun!

One day at a time, no decisions while in a strong emotional state..okay? wink

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In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus

Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm