A crap load dude, a crap load. But know this, the new stuff you do, on your own, or with kids, is very sweet.
That is not the answer I wanted lol, I was looking for that magical pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
I still need to work on my ability to communicate. I had one of my techs get a little sideways with me the other day at work. He started cursing and raising his voice with me. My reaction was to curse and raise my voice back. I basically said for him to back the "F" off or your fired (that is not how I wanted to react). I spoke with the owner of the company and he asked me why I reacted the way I did. I said because I felt attacked and I attacked right back. My bosses response was well... I understand that and may have reacted the same way, however he cannot steal your dignity or your birthday. He asked if I was ready to speak with the offending tech and I said not yet as I am still emotionally invested in the incident.
How I wanted to respond: Listen, validate, handle my emotions, evaluate the situation, respond appropriately. H.E.A.T.= Handle your emotions, Empathize, Assess the situation, Take appropriate action. I did none of those things, lol I failed miserably.
Before I would have just cursed right back and sent him to the unemployment line. Now I want to figure my response out, why he acted in his manner and figure out how to prevent this from happening again. He can be a good technician and I hate to lose someone who can be an asset. I also want to learn and grow from this experience.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
It is very cool how you get to look at yourself a little more objectively, isn't it? This is a lousy gift we get, but a gift nonetheless. Sounds silly, but I am very proud of you my friend
A crap load dude, a crap load. But know this, the new stuff you do, on your own, or with kids, is very sweet.
That is not the answer I wanted lol, I was looking for that magical pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
I still need to work on my ability to communicate. I had one of my techs get a little sideways with me the other day at work. He started cursing and raising his voice with me. My reaction was to curse and raise my voice back. I basically said for him to back the "F" off or your fired (that is not how I wanted to react). I spoke with the owner of the company and he asked me why I reacted the way I did. I said because I felt attacked and I attacked right back. My bosses response was well... I understand that and may have reacted the same way, however he cannot steal your dignity or your birthday. He asked if I was ready to speak with the offending tech and I said not yet as I am still emotionally invested in the incident.
How I wanted to respond: Listen, validate, handle my emotions, evaluate the situation, respond appropriately. H.E.A.T.= Handle your emotions, Empathize, Assess the situation, Take appropriate action. I did none of those things, lol I failed miserably.
Before I would have just cursed right back and sent him to the unemployment line. Now I want to figure my response out, why he acted in his manner and figure out how to prevent this from happening again. He can be a good technician and I hate to lose someone who can be an asset. I also want to learn and grow from this experience.
This is growth, painful but growth nonetheless. Like I said in a recent post on my thread, cutting out the bad parts is sometimes like amputation without anesthesia.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
I applaud your recognition of where you can grow subguy. Really well done. Its amazing (in such a GOOD way), how DB is so much about challenging us to grow in all aspects of our lives. I think when we can start seeing that, changes really are for ourselves and not only/just to get save our Ms. We really are saving ourselves...from ourselves.
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TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
