I've always wondered why I felt so crappy after these "discussions" with H and now I know, he never validated that he saw my side of things.

THIS^^^ is so true Bug for me as well. I did feel crappy so many times with. And I always thought it was my fault for not explaining myself well enough, so I would say it again and again and again......and voila...in comes the 'you are a nag' from H.

He didnt validate my feelings. He thought I always overreacted. Wow I see it so clearly now (not that I am disengaging myself from my faults in the M and my own communication issues, etc...I just mean I can see even more now how I contributed to the M's demise).

Thank you Bug for always sharing so openly and clearly.
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TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home