She showed me a depression book that she has, because my MIL has also been treated for depression. We went through the symptoms and my wife had many of the most obvious ones. Insomnia, excess sleep, change in eating habits, sighing, etc..
OK, so let me get this right. You were convinced that your marital problems were because your W was on A/D's. So now she's off of A/D's and you're convinced that she's depressed and that it's causing your marital problems. You are STILL trying to "diagnose" your marriage problems and unfortunately your MIL is a willing participant in this road to nowhere. This is classic "more of the same" behavior. It hasn't worked for you up until now, yet you just keep on keeping on. You're going down cheeseless tunnels. In DR Michele says some people will set up lawn chairs in front of cheeseless tunnels waiting for the cheese. I think you've built a whole patio there with furniture, umbrellas, a grille and a firepit.
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So I asked my MIL since she has been through this before herself, what can I do to help her? Her answer was, you have to let her fall.
If I remember right, your MIL left her husband and divorced him. I don't know why you think she's a good resource, it's like going to a doctor that has been disbarred for malpractice to seek out medical advice from him.
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She will not listen until she falls down and experiences the rock bottom of her depression and realizes this guy is not going to make her any happier.
Here you are again at the exact same place, convincing yourself that all your marital problems are in your W's head and you just need to sit and do nothing except wait for her to figure it out and come back. You are wasting valuable time, you should be doing 180's and GALing and showing her the H only a fool would leave. Instead you're showing her the same desperate, needy, clingy person that she doesn't want. You've said yourself that OM is a total loser, well what does that say about you? How do you look to her that she'd rather have an affair with a deadbeat loser than stay home with you? When are you going to do something about yourself?
