Running out of steam

[mrtwopointfour]

Okay, try "Is that new?" and if it is, no matter the answer, say "It looks great" Seriously, you may have to practice this...not kidding. Eye contact or a very light shoulder touch with sincerity. But you have to actually think it looks great other wise we smell BS. If this didn't work before, only try once in the week or whatever and watch for reaction.

Ok will give that a go - I have always thoughts she looked nice, but always had more things on my mind than saying so - i guess W is just bitter and annoyed that i have the cheek to say this now. A touch on the shoulder may be a step to far, any physical contact tends to repulse her at the moment. I can not work out whether this is because she has feelings for OM and thinks of herself as cheating him if she touches me, or whether a touch from me may make her have feelings and she wants to avoid that at all costs.

Nice GAL list!! I love reading in the coffee shop :)))

Thanks. Its actually not been too hard. Its just stuff I wanted to do, but put kids, W and life at home with them before mine. Coffee shops are good, but I think I will get a cover sleeve for DR as I've had a few nosey people trying to read the cover!

Maybe I misunderstood and she wants to talk about future parenting and not right now parenting? If that is the case, you can say "We are excellent parents and love our kids, I am sure we can continue being excellent parents"

I am not sure myself. She is quite vague. For instance W has said we have to get used to looking after kids on our own. But you could also read this as, if we are to have more of a life for ourselves, we will not always be here together to deal with kids. W has suggested we have a short trip away soon, which I have to be honest is a huge step from a few weeks back when any attempt at arranging this was met with, 'I'm not sure about that'. So I am going to take that as a positive, even if just as W relaxing and feeling less pressure than a change of heart.