You might feel queasy because it's different and signifies another shift in your R with H and the family that was.

There is no perfect answer that is open to you. Your mindreading a lot about what your Ss may or may not think. They are going to have many different, uncomfortable, unwanted things come up in the future, not all of them having to do with your R with H. They will handle it when given the opportunity.

Have you asked the Ss what they might like?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss