I'm not controlling this lawn furniture bs. I don't care where it is placed. I know H has felt unappreciated working a heavy schedule in the past because I always critized him being gone so much. So I don't want him to feel unappreciated by having to do all the work by himself. I offered my help and he rebuffed it. So in light of showing appreciation and praising the small things, I was questioning whether I should be supportive and show up anyways to help. Or if that would push him away further since he stated he didn't need my help.
btw, I replied 'that's great. thanks so much for helping.'
We normally would have done this work together so it's not really a 180 deal. Especially since he's resented the other things he's had to do around the house by himself.
Still wondering if I should show up to physically help or not. I'm thinking it may make him feel awkward for some reason. Or maybe it's more important to show up & help to prove that I WON'T make it awkward...
Maybe I'll just get sick and stay in bed all that day. Too much thinking...
