Just updated my sig, but I am 36 W is 31. I started going through the love languages the other day. But have paused on it because I really feel like I should read DR again to screw my head back on. Testing the waters feels more like a horrible strategy game that I cannot win sometimes. Like her talking about reconciliation and we have a nice interaction, then she doesn't say anything to me for days. Trying to remain calm and focused on my actions. But it is definitely emotionally draining.
I can say from experience that trying to detach feels like a game of relationship chicken that the WAS is MUCH better equipped to play.
Hang in there. Figure out what you need to do and stick to your guns...but also be astute enough to know when you need to change things up. I know it sounds contradictory, but that's what it is. For me it helped to develop a strategy or set of behaviors that I'm able to remind myself of so when I feel weak or uncertain or tempted I can quickly get back to being able to do what I need to do.
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
