Shes the one confused

[MrBond]

""you can't say her actions are wrong I dont! Not to her. That would be stupid."

I didn't mean OUT LOUD. I mean you have to respect the fact that it's how she chooses to act. You don't need to respect the act itself, but you respect the fact that it is how she has chosen to act.

"I get that she is fighting for her well being in any way she can. I also see how that fighting impacts so many people around her."

In the end it's her that needs to accept the consequences and it doesn't concern you. You are going to argue back that your kids, friends, or whatever, but the fact remains that how she acts is still her business and you have to not let it affect you and not let the affect on your kids affect you.

"Oh! Shes wrong... But its up to her to figure things out."

Acting self righteous doesn't solve anything.

"Agree! But to a certain extent reguarding the kids well being."

You never said that she was abusive to the kids. The kids will be affected, no doubt. However, if she chooses to not reconcile, then you can't do anything else. And that's what's frustrating you.

"Problem is theres new stuff popping up all the time. I worry for my kids. Letting go is difficult when you are constantly presented with change."

I understand that which is why you have to be confidant enough in yourself to adjust to those changes.

"You have a good point here. But I dont show her any emotions. She is the one projecting and spewing anger at me."

You can't stop that. Lay down boundaries if she does that again and tell her that she will not treat you or talk to you in that way and hang up.

"She is the one calling and crying on the phone somethimes. So its not like she stays away. Shes on to OM2 and still searching for whatever she is lost. We have NC bc I cant cope with her crazy."

Because she is lost. It's up to her to find her own path. Doesn't make her necessarily "crazy".

"She on the other hand trusts me 100%. Her words. She turns to me bc she does trust me. She wants parts of me still and I help out when I can."

AGAIN, because this has nothing to do with you despite what she might spew at you. She's lashing out because she's confused. She never acted that way before correct? Then you know there's something wrong.

"I dont think I made her run."

You may not have been the sole reason why she left, but something triggered her and lets fact it, you probably didn't know what made up a good M until this happened.

"This is were your wrong. I do agree with you though. The children are the most important for me. I spend all my time and money to counteract her behaviour. Even ex thinks im the greatest father in the world. Her words.

I don't see where I saw I was wrong.

"I do listen to advice. But all advice is based on what I write and writing leaves alot of information out."

So what's the problem? If you want more detailed answers, give more details.

"Im just trying to do the right thing. To make decisions along the way that I wont regret in the future."

There's nothing wrong with that.