Running out of steam

[mrtwopointfour]

First to answer your question about moderation my guess is that Virginia must approve you coming off of that status.
She more than likly only works M-F on Colorado time.
So when the moderators ask for you to come off - then she will approve it.

As far as detachment goes, think of it like an onion.
There are always more layers to peel back.
You almost never get to full detachment as it takes a lot of TIME.
It is a learned behavior and you must move forward but that does not mean move on.

Keep posting!

Hi Cadet

i am off moderation now (sorry with the excitement I posted below, and never saw your post!). This is great, feel like i can talk to people now.

I like the way you talk about detachment, so its not basically waking up and detaching. I do feel like the layers are coming off, but of course, sometimes there are steps backwards. Its not easy with W in same house, but I know this can work to my advantage as we are communicating.

Just venting now - but I just wish she didn't look so good at the moment, as its torture seeing her every day, I know the getting slim and dressing well, all the extra effort is part of a possible MLC, but it does feel like an extra kick in the teeth. I'm sorry that sounds like I am being mean about how she looked before, thats not the case at all!