Just re-read your first post and cannot believe how the same my situation is. Its scary. All of your "ME" points are exactly what I was doing and same goes for W.
W and I have been separated for 3 months now. First two were the hardest, we would start talking about stuff and then she would eventually start bringing up the past.."you said this, you did that". It sucked and i had to have so much patience to keep my cool. In retrospect i could have handled it better but I didnt handle it too bad. I jsut tried to listen to her as much as possible and tried politely to end conversation if she was getting too fired up and aggressive.
Ever since the BD ( 2 weeks ago) the abuse has stopped and we are trying to hold it together as much as possible for the kids. I figure the anger has to die off at some point, but not sure how long forgiveness follows after that...if ever.
I am also wondering if there is another person involved...man, i hate thinking about stuff like that.
Moth76, I think you are handling as best as can be expected, you are being proactive and patient. Well done.
i will watch your posts with keen interest.
Me - 37 W - 37 M -5 T - 15
S=5 S=3
Seperated - 12/12 BD - 20/03/13 Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.
