What I mean is that while you have a right to judge her based on your own expectations, you can't say her actions are wrong, BECAUSE they are based on HER expectations. Everyone is entitled to live how they see fit. Your way doesn't carry more or less weight than hers. They are both equal to both of you.
You are D'd so she has a right to do whatever she wants to. You can't control that. Likewise, YOU can do whatever you want to and she can't control what you do either.
"Help me out! What am I not helping with?"
You're not letting go. That's what's causing your resentment and anger.
"We have almost no contact at all. I have no clue as to how she currently sees things because we do not talk to eachother unless its reguarding kids."
Which is how it is for people who have gotten a D. She doesn't need to tell you how she's feeling or what she's doing any more.
"Therefor I have no actions to stop."
That is correct. You also have no right to stop them. It's her life now.
"Preaching would imply me trying to force my point of views onto her. I dont."
In a way you do. By acting angry and resentful it could be one of the reasons why she's stayed away. Just IMHO.
"I come here with my frustrations and im thankful for the advice. I know she doesnt want me and im fine with that."
It doesn't sound like it.
"Im not fine with her behaviour though. Do I have to be?"
No you don't have to be. But that resentment and anger is what's keeping you from moving forward. You're spending so much time looking at what she does or doesn't do, that you're not living YOUR life and enriching your children's lives. If you want them to not follow the same mistakes as your W, you have to counteract how they see her acting.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
