"I can wait a few more months to see what happens but if nothing happens then i assume he is just enjoying the benefits of a roommate because he cant afford to live on his own."
Never assume.
"I did read DB and DR and i go to therapy for myself once a month."
And what does your C say?
"I feel like he has used me honestly and now he can throw me away because he never invested in us financially, he didnt even want to pay for the D even though he wanted it."
These are your hurt feelings talking.
"I dont feel like i am different, i still have the same hobbies, still like the same things. The only difference is that i grew up and got serious about making a living while H wants to work only part time and accept handouts from his parents. I know he doesnt like how independent i am because it makes him look bad and yet he cant find the motivation to work himself a bit harder or find a better job, should i then cut back on my job and activities to accommodate his insecurities? I have a feeling if i do that he will be angry that he has to support me."
I have a feeling that you're misreading things. How much of these concerns about him have you talked to him about?
"Depression is a beast i am not qualified to handle, if that is truly what it is. I can give him some time and space if that is what he needs ( and that seems to be what he wants) but like i said, when is enough enough?"
Right now, you don't know so start with a clean slate to understanding.
"Again i dont want to sound angry or bitter, i just want to be realistic."
wakarimashita
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
