First to answer your question about moderation my guess is that Virginia must approve you coming off of that status. She more than likly only works M-F on Colorado time. So when the moderators ask for you to come off - then she will approve it.
As far as detachment goes, think of it like an onion. There are always more layers to peel back. You almost never get to full detachment as it takes a lot of TIME. It is a learned behavior and you must move forward but that does not mean move on.
