I know you are angry at her because she is being a selfish jerk but please don't stop doing things that are working.
She likes how you have given her space, no questions asked. It's a slow slow process but seems to me she is moving closer to you not further away.
My analysis of the dream: (it's quite positive for you)
Your wife has a hard time telling the difference between people that are good for her and people that are dangerous. You again have always been her protector. She has some desire to deal with danger by herself but is always reminded that you are so good at "taming tigers" and putting fires out.
It was a very positive dream.
I think she loved the butt grab if she didn't she definitely would have ended the hug
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13