Happy birthday! Hope you did something nice for yourself or fun. Your birthday is still your birthday, no matter what is going on with your W or your M.
Next - listen to T! He won't steer you wrong with advice, I promise you.
Don't be too hard on yourself for your behavior during the mediation. Yes, you made a mistake. We all do. But just recognizing what you did and why you did it is huge.
You're on your journey too, remember.
The tricky thing is, sometimes the MLCer has valid complaints about us. We should validate what they are saying, and address it if it has any validity. However, those complaints do not justify the bad choices they make. Don't let her try to convince you otherwise on that one.
Something I did that may be helpful...
During one of our recent talks, my H said that he thought I didn't like him (total script, btw). I said that I was sorry to hear that he felt that way, and could he give me some things that I said or did that made him feel that way.
He couldn't come up with anything.
So instead of trying to convince him that what he was thinking was wrong, I planted a little seed of doubt for what he was thinking.
Who knows what will happen with that.
Hang in there J, your kids need you now more than ever. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if you need to. You can do it.
Any upcoming fun plans with friends?
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
