That seems a very healthy way to handle things and look at oneself to me.
AJ
Thank you for the vote of confidence AJM!
It is definitely a work in progress though - and some days (weeks?) are better than others. In thinking about it today, I likened it to learning to ice skate. (Something I never did master.) Prebomb I was on the wall, the M was on the wall AND on thin ice to boot.
Now, I can see the cracks in the ice which need to be avoided and realize I need to LET GO OF THE WALL. But I'm fairly wobbly so every now and again I THINK to reach for the wall - but then I remember that the wall isn't really very reliable and that I'll never become a better skater if I don't learn to balance on my own.
Other than analogies, what do I have to report...
D18 has a car!
S20 paid his license reinstatement fee and should get his license in the next 10 days!
Its ridiculously cold and we're expecting a fair amount of snow!
H is off doing his thing.
Oh yes! a 180 for me
H and I were in the laundry room this morning which he observed was a mess. (He is right on that score.) He did his usual start in of how this and that needed to be done. I agreed and said, "those are good ideas but I won't have the time to do that today because I have to go to work. Would you like to stay home from gambling and take care of it?" (All sweetness and light was I )
He paused for about 20 seconds and just looked at me. I smiled inquiringly.
"No, I don't think so."
"OK. Well maybe you'll have time later this week." Another smile.
And that was that.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
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