Hi PeterP. No, you don't have to be fine with the behavior. But I think, in the spirit of things, that comes across as resentment vs. dealing with the current behavior. It may be just dealing with the current behavior, and if that's the case, then I agree no you don't have to be fine with it.
At some point, you do need to be ok with her doing things her way even if you disagree.
I disagree with Mr Bond on the idea that you can't judge her actions based on your expectations. Yes you can. You are. And as a separate human being, I can't think how else you would. Just so long as you realize you'll be disappointed each and every step with this new person that used to be somebody you knew.
Keep venting. There's a lot to vent Make sense?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
